Love On Purpose

Love on Purpose

 

 

Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day.  To some it is Singles Awareness Day. (My daughter wrote a song about it. It will make you smile. Check it out HERE.) I’ve heard people say it’s the Hallmark Holiday; the day the greeting card companies rip us off. I’ve heard men say it’s a day that no matter what they do, they can’t win. Whatever you call it and however you feel about it, tomorrow is February 14th.

I love special days and any reason to celebrate and have fun. This love for special days sometimes sets me up for disappointment because I want the important people in my life to participate with me! I want them to think special days are as important as I do, and of course wanting it doesn’t make it so. Still, I power on and get my hopes up!

So let’s talk about V-Day. I understand the cynicism. It is commercialized to death and it’s easy to feel pressured to participate, but what about a quick paradigm shift? Have we gotten so cynical that taking time to celebrate and do something sweet for the people we are closest to is just too much trouble? What’s wrong with a day set aside to love people on purpose? What’s wrong with a day that we all make a special effort to make the people we love feel important and maybe even brag to the world, “I am lucky enough to get to love this person and call them mine!”

If you know me or have been part of the community here in the Land of Angela very long at all, you know that loving people on purpose is something I talk about a lot. I believe that feeling love is worthless is we don’t make an effort give love away; to love people on purpose.

effort- a vigorous or determined attempt.

Loving people on purpose just means making an effort to make them feel cared for and important. A real effort. A vigorous or determined attempt. Not an ‘I stopped at Walgreens on the way home from work so you wouldn’t be mad at me’ effort.

I certainly try to do this on more than one day of the year, and I’m sure you do too. But this one day in February when it’s cold and we are all tired of winter, we have an opportunity to warm things up a bit!  The effort doesn’t necessarily have to cost a lot of money.  It doesn’t have to be extravagant, although it can be. I have found that the little things are the big things, and the occasional grand gesture is wonderful. The real treasure in any gift, is the effort and the intention.

When we give something out of obligation, whether it’s time, words, or a material gift, whomever we are giving to can feel the underlying eye-roll. You know that eye-roll we get when we ask our teenagers to do chores? It feels the same when the intention of the gift is ‘have to’ instead of ‘want to.’

Some people are naturally great gift givers. They are tuned in and catch the slightest mention of a want or need. They see things they think will bless someone and pick them up to save for a special occasion, or give it just to make someone feel special. I have a friend who has quietly ‘sponsored’ a teenager’s prom dress because she knew a family was struggling. Because I’m a single mother some lovely people in our lives arrange for my kids to be able to get me a gift for my birthday for example; which not only blesses me, but my children feel good that they can be a blessing to their mom. My sweetheart comes and takes my garbage off every week without being asked and without so much as a sigh of complaint. Just little things like that are huge!

 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom can be no variation, neither shadow that is cast by turning.~James 1:17 ASV

Others of us, myself included, are more challenged in this area. Since God is such a great giver, I pray a lot for God to show me how to love people the way they need to be loved, and to show me things that would be a blessing to them. Sometimes it would be easier not to make the effort. The thing is, the people I love are worth the effort, and I want them to know they are worth it and feel they are worth it. This, for me, has been something I’ve had to work on over the years. I have a long way to go but I’m improving!

 

I think there are three reasons Valentine’s Day in particular gets people all up in arms.

 

  1. Fear: We aren’t sure what to do or we don’t have the finances to do what we would like to do, so the uncertainty makes us want to do nothing and shake our fist at the whole premise.
  2. Laziness: We just don’t want to put forth the effort. (Come on…We know it’s the truth anyway!) Even plants die if we don’t pay attention to them. We can’t just take for granted they will grow and flourish if we don’t give them nourishment. It makes no sense to not water the plant or put it in the sun and then blame the plant because it shriveled and died. Relationships are no different. If we don’t water them with attention and occasionally warm them with romance they will eventually stop growing, become boring, and eventually they too will die. It makes no sense, but if this begins to happen we tend to say love is a fairy tale and relationships don’t work. Sometimes the truth is, we didn’t put forth any effort. Life is hard and love and romance make it more fun! We should make a special effort sometimes to be romantic and spoil each other. The payoff is so worth the effort!
  3. Being Single: Valentine’s day is harder if you have no romantic love in your life. But loving and being loved is not reserved for romance. We all have people we can love on purpose tomorrow. We have friends and family, and if we don’t there are tons of people out there that need someone to love them on purpose. Making Valentine’s Day about giving rather than receiving will put the joy back in the day! I had a small get together for friends one year so we could all enjoy one another and shift the focus from the fact that we were all single. Just because we weren’t in a romantic relationship didn’t mean we couldn’t have a great day!

Ann Voskamp says, “Life is not an emergency. Life is a gift.” The best thing about life is the people we get to love and the people who love us back. Let’s take tomorrow and make an extra special effort, without the obligatory eye-roll, to make the ones we love feel important. Why not change our attitude from, “I have to,” and “This is ridiculous,” to “I get to,” and “They are worth it!” Have fun and put thought and effort into your giving. Do something surprising that you know will make the person you love smile. Life is more fun when we take every opportunity we can to celebrate each other! Make tomorrow about love, on purpose.

Love on Purpose

 

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Angela is a single mom raising her two favorite people.

Her favorite son Evan is a baseball and wrestling loving 19 year old young man with special needs, and a great sense of humor.

Her favorite daughter Phoebe is a 15 year old sophomore in high school, who is also a gifted and anointed musician, and singer/songwriter.

She works from home as a freelance writer, blogger, and medical biller.

 

 

 


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Choose Life

Choose Life

The sun is about to set for the final time in 2014. I am so excited about the new year! I am expecting rest, the completion of several goals, the realization of a few dreams, and I expect there to be some extraordinary surprises!

Will this be the year we spend more time living than watching other people live on TV? Will we spend more time seeing places and experiencing things this year than looking at what other people are doing on Facebook? Will we finally put our big girl panties or our big boy underwear on and look inside of ourselves to figure out what we really want our lives to look like? Will we be brave enough to start creating the picture we have in our spirits, or will we spend this year wishing and waiting for some perfect set of circumstances to fall from the sky?  Will we think of all the excuses why we can’t live the life we want, or will we make a list of reasons why we absolutely can?

I read this a few minutes ago and it stirred me up:

Apathy makes the dead out of the living. ~Beth Moore

I can PROMISE you; I mean take it to the bank, write it down, it’s the truth anyway; if you have no plans, or even few plans, you will wake up on 01/01/2016 the same way and in the same place as you wake up tomorrow.  You will have experienced little in your life except going to work and coming home, and you will feel a little, or a lot, more dead inside.

Not all of our plans will come to fruition. Not all of our goals will be accomplished. There might be CHANGE involved. I know. Take a deep breath. I don’t love change either, but to really live we have to accept change. The opposite of change is not staying the same. The opposite of change is dead. Apathy makes the dead out of the living.

I do not deny that life is what happens when we make other plans, but that fact does not negate my previous promise.

If we do not pull the trigger we have no chance of hitting the target. If we don’t crack open the egg we will never get the nutrition inside. If we do not plant some seeds, nothing will come out of the ground. We can’t save $1000 if we don’t put the first dollar in the bank. We will never go on vacation if we don’t decide where we want to go and when. We want to make a difference but we never decide what difference or how.

We want to go places, and do things, and create memories, and enjoy life, but the days and months and years pass and we never planned the details so we never do anything.  We ‘liked’ a lot of other people’s pictures of them doing things though. (I know…I wrote that out loud.) Apathy. Let this be the year we stop with the wishing things were different or better and DO SOMETHING about it.

I know this, as sure as I know my name is Angela: God did NOT put us on the earth just because there happens to be oxygen. We are here to live an abundant life; to the full, until it overflows! He said himself that that’s why he came, so that we MIGHT have an abundant life.

The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, until it overflows). ~John 10:10 AMP

He did His part. He made a way for us. Will we do ours? Will we receive Him and this extraordinary life He gives? It is us and our decisions, our plans, that turn the might into a life! They turn the may into today! (I’ve got my preach on now! Feel free to say amen. ;)) NOW is the perfect time! We are not promised tomorrow. Today matters.

There will never be a time with no obstacles or issues. There will never be a time that we aren’t in THE MIDDLE of something. Don’t wait! Plan right now to have the best year of your life.

Choose LifeDo some things you’ve always wanted to do. Go some places you’ve always wanted to go. Visit some people you’ve been meaning to visit. Finish some things you’ve started. Start something new. Make some progress. Plan some adventures. Plan some time to look up from the computer and out at your life. Don’t look at all the obstacles or issues. I have found that once I make a decision, solutions begin to present themselves.

No decision=no solutions.

Apathy makes the dead out of the living. Don’t die before you take your last breath. I beseech you, in the name of the Lord Jesus, choose life!

I call heaven and earth to witness this day against you that I have set before you life and death, the blessings and the curses; therefore choose life, that you and your descendants may live ~Deuteronomy 30:19

I wish you a Happy New Year and I pray that every day of this year, no matter what you are in THE MIDDLE of, is full until it overflows. Thank you for visiting The Land of Angela today. Take a moment to share with your friends and family by clicking on the share button and pinning on your pinterest page! Be sure and subscribe because there are going to be some improvements and changes the next time you visit! I don’t want you to miss a thing. 🙂

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Angela

 

Angela is a single mom raising her two favorite people.

Her favorite son Evan is a baseball and wrestling loving 19 year old young man with special needs, and a great sense of humor.

Her favorite daughter Phoebe is a 15 year old sophomore in high school, who is also a gifted and anointed musician, and singer/songwriter.

She works from home as a freelance writer, blogger, and medical biller.


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Christmas Can Seem Daunting!

If you are not done with your Christmas preparations, now would be a good time to panic! Christmas, and all of the tasks that go along with it, can seem huge and daunting! But wait!! That’s not what all of this is about. It’s about a God who wants to be with us so much that he came, quietly and humbly, in the flesh to do so. It’s the celebration of the gift of a savior, and in honor of His gift, the blessing of one another. We can make it about a bunch of other stuff and make ourselves miserable.

I’ve done it and I still have to make myself stay calm and not worry. I worry that my kids will be disappointed. I worry about the extra money I’ve spent. I worry I’m going to forget something or that my kids won’t have the same amount of gifts. Blah blah blah. When I get caught up in all that mess I miss the fun. I miss the moments to say thank you. I miss the making of memories and the time to enjoy people I love.

I’m about to turn 42 and I don’t want to miss anything else or take any more time for granted. Here are 5 things I am doing to stay calm….even on December 22nd!

Do one thing at a time-
I know….we are all superwoman and superman! Here’s a revelation: no we’re not and trying to be something we’re not is exhausting. It sucks the joy right out of our world.

Say Thank You-
Ok I’m grateful! This is not helpful. Just trust me. Take a moment and say thank you. Thank you for another Christmas. Thank you for the ham….yes the one that cost $27…I did not have to kill a pig for it! Thank you. It’s amazing what thank you does to calm the anxiety and change our focus.

Take a Bath-
A 15 minute soak relaxes me, helps my aches and pains, and helps me go another round! If I pray while I’m in there I get an even better boost.

Do something you like in THE MIDDLE of something you dread-
Go grab a bite with a friend in THE MIDDLE of running errands. I watch my favorite movies when I’m wrapping because wrapping is not my favorite thing. If Christmas shopping stresses you out, ask a friend to tag along so you can enjoy their company in THE MIDDLE of the hustle and bustle.

Ask for help-
I find a lot of joy in helping someone else. It is much harder for me to allow someone the same joy and let them help me. And actually ask for help? Only if my children are starving! I am learning, however, that trusting someone enough to ask for their help, or even just receiving from them something they want you to have, blesses them. Let people bless you. The way God cares for us is by using us to care for each other.

We can do this! It’s almost here! Let’s find joy in the little things. They really are the big things.

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Angela

 

Angela is a single mom raising her two favorite people.

Her favorite son Evan is a baseball and wrestling loving 19 year old young man with special needs, and a great sense of humor.

Her favorite daughter Phoebe is a 15 year old sophomore in high school, who is also a gifted and anointed musician, and singer/songwriter.

She works from home as a freelance writer, blogger, and medical biller.


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You Just Never Know

You Just Never Know

When you get up in the morning, you just never know what the day has in store. Yesterday was a lovely day. I accompanied a couple of my favorite people to a follow-up appointment and celebrated a good report over some hearty country cooking. I came home and got some work done and took a nap.  Floated right through to almost the very end, and then….well you just never know. Life can sometimes break your heart. Hurting people hurt people and this time the people who got hurt are my people. I cried and prayed and wrote and then I took a deep breath. I let it out and I slept, believing that what I wrote is the truth. He carries my the burden of my world on His shoulder and He will give me supernatural advise. God’s got this.( www.landofangela.com/deep-breath-hes-got-this)

In peace I will both lie down and sleep, for you, Lord, alone make me dwell in safety and confident trust. ~Psalm 4:8 AMP

God cares for us and watches over us. If I can’t live out what I write out then I’m wasting my time and yours. Sometimes you’ve got to preach to yourself!  I got up this morning and faithful to His word I received the comfort and wisdom I needed. I was still sad. I still cried. I prayed and on I went….and then well, you just never know. A text from a friend, who is my family. God with skin on. That’s the cool thing about God. He cares for us and watches over us by using us to care for and watch over each other.

Let your light so shine before men that they may see your moral excellence and your praiseworthy, noble, and good deeds and recognize and honor and praise and glorify your Father Who is in heaven. ~Matthew 5:16 AMP

I am a single working mom and my daughter who is 6 months from being 16 now has a nice dependable car! Now she just has to learn to drive. 😉 Cared for. Watched over. I was humbled and overwhelmed, grateful. I still am. I cried. I prayed. I praised and glorified my Heavenly Father because the Light of The World shined right through my friend and lit up my sweet Phoebe!

You Just Never Know

And so we continue our celebration of Advent, the coming of the Lord. I thought about Abraham. He got up one morning and the God of the universe, the same one who rode with me on the roller coaster ride of my day, spoke to Him and well…..you just never know. He went from being just a guy named Abram who lived in Haran to being the guy named Abraham that made an everlasting covenant with God. Because he was willing to simply believe and walk out what He believed, and he didn’t even do it perfectly God used him and his family to bring our savior to us.

It’s way too late to convince me this God that I believe in and this savior that I celebrate, is a fairy tale! Time after time, as I simply believe and walk out what I believe, not even close to perfectly, He has shown Himself to be exactly who the prophet Isaiah said He was: the Mighty God, the Everlasting Father, and the Prince of Peace.

You Just Never Know

Light your candle. Say a prayer. Place your hope in Him. Celebrate! You just never know….right in THE MIDDLE of whatever is going on in your life, one word from God today could change everything.

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Angela is a single mom raising her two favorite people.

Her favorite son Evan is a baseball and wrestling loving 19 year old young man with special needs, and a great sense of humor.

Her favorite daughter Phoebe is a 15 year old sophomore in high school, who is also a gifted and anointed musician, and singer/songwriter.

She works from home as a freelance writer, blogger, and medical biller.


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It Doesn't Matter What it Looks Like

Jesse the father of David was invited to a holy ceremony by the prophet Samuel. He was to bring his boys with Him, and God instructed Samuel to anoint the one He pointed out to be the king of Israel. Samuel saw Eliab and  thought he was the one. After all he looked the way a king was supposed to look!

But The Lord said to Samuel, “Look not on his appearance or the height of his stature, for I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees; for man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”~1 Samuel 16:7

You see in the eyes of God, it doesn’t matter what it looks like. It matters what it is. God wanted a man after His own heart. That man was the most unlikely of all the candidates. A shepherd boy. Why would you go to a pasture to find a King?!

A child born from a virgin? We all know what that looks like! What it looked like didn’t matter to God. What mattered was that Mary carried the savior of all mankind. A king born in a stable? Kings aren’t born in stables; they aren’t carpenters’ sons. None of it looked right. God didn’t care. He had a plan. He knew what it was. It was the fulfillment of the promise and He always keeps His promises. I have found with God, the promise rarely comes in the package I thought it would come in.

But God hath chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise; and God hath chosen the weak things of the world to confound the things which are mighty;~1 Corinthians 1:27

What about us? What about THE MIDDLE of this season or this situation or this issue? I promise you, it doesn’t matter what it looks like. It matters what it is. I’ve seen God take the paint spills of my life and make a masterpiece. I see His work in the eyes of my children. I see it when He uses me, the most tattered dirtiest brush in the bunch, to paint His hope and light and love on someone else’s canvas. No one could have seen that coming!!! Confounding for sure!

It Looked like a Mess but God made it a Msterpiece

God is the master of taking what looks like chaos and creating order. He takes what looks like destruction and brings redemption. He takes what looks like the end and makes a new beginning. He takes what looks like a hot mess and makes it a message.

If you look around today and yours looks like an impossible situation, remember the baby born in a stable to an unwed mother that was the King of kings and Lord of Lords, and wait. Believe the promise is coming.  Look for it in the unlikely. Oh yeah, and then if the promise comes in a plain paper wrapper,  or one with dirt on it, maybe it has no bow, or the box has been dented; we have to decide whether or not we will say thank you and receive the gift. 

Light a candle and thank God that through a baby boy in an unlikely place in a package of swaddling clothes (usually used to bury people in,)  He showed us He keeps His promises, even if at first glance it looks like foolishness.

Thank you for visiting today. I hope you come back soon as we wait to celebrate the day He became Emmanuel: God with us.

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Angela

 

Angela is a single mom raising her two favorite people.

Her favorite son Evan is a baseball and wrestling loving 19 year old young man with special needs, and a great sense of humor.

Her favorite daughter Phoebe is a 15 year old sophomore in high school, who is also a gifted and anointed musician, and singer/songwriter.

She works from home as a freelance writer, blogger, and medical biller.

 


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I read Isaiah 11 with new eyes this evening!

To start my celebration of Advent I’m reading Isaiah 11, it feels like, with new eyes. Isaiah prophesies the coming of our Lord.

There shall come forth a Shoot out of the stock of Jesse [David’s father], and a Branch out of his roots shall grow and bear fruit. ~ Isa 11:1

He goes on to describe the coming savior, the One we call Jesus. He is the fulfillment of the promise. Such beautiful words, and they describe well the lover of my soul.

I wish, before you fall asleep tonight with thoughts of a hectic Monday in your head, you would take a moment to take in this passage of scripture. (Isa. 11:1-10)

Maybe then, in The Middle of the night or in THE MIDDLE of your day tomorrow, you will be comforted that God keeps His promises.

Just maybe, when the typical Monday frustrations try to creep in we will think of the Savior who judges us righteous in The Middle of our messes and we will thank Him instead for His faithfulness. (Isaiah 11:5)

Maybe, when stresses try to rise up as we journey through The Middle of this week, we will remember that God sent a little child to lead us. (Isaiah 11:6) and His name is the Prince of Peace.

For the first time in a long time, maybe for the first time in my life, I am really excited about celebrating Christmas. The giving and the receiving will be fun, the time with family rich; but the thing is I have butterflies in my stomach like a girl who knows the one she loves is about to knock on the door! The Light of the world has come!

Light a candle and say a prayer of thanks:

The light shines in the darkness and the darkness has not overcome it. ~John 1:5

The light has come and the dark has not overcome it.

Thank you for visiting the Land of Angela! I hope you will visit again soon.

Angela

 

Angela is a single mom raising her two favorite people.

Her favorite son Evan is a baseball and wrestling loving 19 year old young man with special needs, and a great sense of humor.

Her favorite daughter Phoebe is a 15 year old sophomore in high school, who is also a gifted and anointed musician, and singer/songwriter.

She works from home as a freelance writer, blogger, and medical biller.


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